"Unless we are very very careful, we doom each other by holding onto images of one another based on preconceptions that are in turn based on indifference to what is other than ourselves. This indifference can be in its extreme, a form of murder and seems to me a rather common phenomenon. We claim autonomy for ourselves and forget that in so doing we can fall into the tyranny of defining other people as we would like them to be. By focusing on what we choose to acknowledge in them, we impose an insidious control on them... The opposite of this inattention is love, is the honoring of others in a way that allows mutual discovery." --Anne Truitt
The following comes from a discussion at free-associaton.net, in the 'civil discourse' association:
To add to the above quote, i want to say that we're going to have to evolve our beliefs about what "civil" discourse is, or do away with such, if we're going to fit humanity into the ideas of being so-called "rational".
My suggestion is that we see the intense as CHAMPIONS, and give them such admiration. See them (and ourselves) as *perfectly imperfect*, in a process, becoming (like all of us).
By freeing up (as much as we can--with such daring exposing just how deep our stated principles sing) people to speak in the languages they're enamored to, we do ourselves a service; we reflect back and forth in ways that ultimately inspire authentic relations.
i myself have blocked language (in the form of 'legal' porn pics) put up on one of the assos i started...so we all make mistakes. If i could do that over again, i *should* have left those up; because, "troll" activity or not, it was a form of arting that the poster made. And she/he was giving me a gift; a gift or puzzle that i was invited to participate in, but couldn't see, and blocked it (telling the poster that if they did it again, i was liable to re-design it with some of my weird imagination, heh heh).
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